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In at the Deep End

Part One...

Life has a funny way of giving me what I want when I least expect it. I have been too exhausted to blog this week. I’ll explain why.  Read on…

As a little African Caribbean boy, I became aware of being good at land sports.  My teacher’s realised this too, and so I found myself competing at an early age, both with and against older boys. The pros, increased popularity, the cons, the sense of displacement, struggling to fit in with your peers but also not fitting in with the older crowd.  Just as my heroes Muhammad Ali and Pelè my sporting ability would be the catalyst for my personal growth.  The politics of the time fuled a great deal of my energy and although from my perspective, I don’t beleive I was ever arrogant (I was probably challenging for one so young) and generally people liked me as their regard at the time felt genuine.

Today, they might be recognised as the senior leadership team, those responsible for running my old junior school in a tiny little corner of north London.  Those men and women were ahead of their time.  They were very media savvy even back then.  These were the days the of the local press and every advantage was taken to ensure a positive reflection of  individual and collective achievements at the school.  Kids who did not attend my junior school, always thought that we thought we were special, but we were not the ones responsible for creating this reality.  That was down to, a mostly caring staff, working in partnership with our parents and guardians.  Sad to say, some kids at the school did not experience this profound sense of care.  They were the one’s who suffered degrees of neglect and unfortunately being exposed to a loving caring environment seem to bring out the worst in them.  They were the one’s who later went on to solvent abuse etc.

I digress.  Most athletes have an Achilles heel, for me that was the odd hater and the swimming pool.  Although, school was a loving caring environment, home had it challenges, namely my stepfather.  Sleep was my way of escaping his negative, spiteful nature and energy.  One night while sleeping, I fell asleep so deep to escape that I experienced what was later described as an epileptic fit.  Rushed to hospital in semiconscious state, then later prescribed medication, which I took for about the next 3 years.

Once the school were informed of this traumatic incident, the first action they took, was to ban my little ass from swimming.  By the second summer of my enforced exhile from the swimming pool, frustration really started to set in.  Living a short distance from the local Lido, on a late summer morning, I set off to meet some friends at the Lido.  Friends, I use that word cautiously.  Anyhow, on this day I manage to place myself in a place of vulnerability where water and my haters happen to be.  Someone, from among the so called friends decided to push me into the deep end.  I remember struggling for a brief moment but I knew this was not my time to die.  I survived but more importantly no long-term pyschological damage was done.

Flash forward some fifty plus years.  Recently I learned to swim, not at Olympic level but I am able to experience the exhilaration that swimming offers.  If that were not enough I have been offered the opportunity to become an accredited Aqautic Exercise Instructor.  The training and learning started in earnest this week.  This time I am back in the deep end because I want to be.  This journey entitled In At The Deep End will be the theme of my future blogs.  I am not sure if I have created an oxymoron, but this is Peak Life in at the deep end.

Peak Life…

 

Are You Dead or Alive?

A Blank Space

Right off the bat, I admit that I am not the biggest social media fan. A lot of the time, it feels to me, social media encourages us to be disingenuous. Far from keeping it real, the social media space, often times just that, a space, a blank.  A space where people can pretend, pretend that they have it all figured out, a place where much less than 20% actually take action of any sort.

What makes You tick

Today, I am aware and know how to better use my mind.  I have always loved asking the challenging questions, not to pry.  It’s always from a place of genuine interest.  I want to know what makes people tick, that’s if they are ticking at all. Sometimes, my big personality can be challenging to others and I get that. I am not the guy who will call to have an idle chit-chat, that’s just not me but I am the guy with whom to have meaningful conversations.  That’s why I love coaching.

A Motto by which you live...

Eight years ago, I created a Facebook group because I wanted to know the types of principles by which my family and friends were living their lives by.  So I asked them to post: A motto by which you live your life…  then I looked at some of the profiles of the friends who joined the group. One person in particular’s self description blew me away but not in a good way.  The self description is so unflattering, it bears no resemblance to the person I have experienced. The disconnect here was so alarming, it lead me to take action by bringing the inaccuracy and falsehood to their attention.

Conscious or unconscious

That’s why I ask, are you dead or alive. Are you unconsciously existing in the default position of survival.  Not living your life purposes (plural) or are you living, consciously aware, being who you were created to be.  Imagine being knocked unconscious for several minutes and you are asked to recall the past several minutes. For those brief moments you were as good as dead.  Well that’s how most of us live, unconscious of who we are or where we are etc.

Dead or Alive

To change this situation, spend less time on your cell phone, less time on social media, less time watching the so called news and listen to podcasts like Dana Wilde’s the Mind Aware Show on iTunes.  If you’ve never heard of her, Dana is all about retraining and training the brain. Whether you know it or not, the one constant is change and you and I should be constantly in a flow of change, a better description would alignment. It’s time, it’s time to figure out why you are here if you haven’t already. So are you…

Have a fantastic weekend!

Peak Life.

 

 

 

 

+1 Plus One

Hi everyone, it’s Recommend Wednesday, a time when I give props to a fellow blogger who in my humble opinion is ‘rocking’ and worth a follow.

This week, the blog I recommend you check out is Navigate My Recovery by Scott Kixmiller.

Scott is a recovering addict who seems to really enjoy writing his blog. This might sound like a funny thing to say, what I like about Scott’s blog is his sincerity. Clearly, he wants to help others, you can tell by the titles of some of his articles such as When Helping Others is Key For Creating More Meaningful Life and Easy Ways To Make Your Life More Meaningful. In the former blog, Scott explains why some wealthy people such as Bill Gates, do for others, having achieved their own personal gaols. Scott also suggests that, retiring can leave us feeling empty and without direction thus quickening the ageing process.

I’ve got a lot to learn from Scott Kixmiller, including ways to make my site is all singing and dancing. On Navigate My Way to Recovery, Scott offers E books plus what I think is a health supplement.

Mark Twain, I think said, the two most important days of your life are, the day you were born and second when you work out the reason why you were born.

Scott, you were born to help others. Thank you! You are this weeks +1

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Monday Motivation (Selling myself short)

Further reading of Bruce D Schneider’s book Energy Leadership reminded me of one my most horrid working experiences.

My Monday motivation, don’t sell yourself short.

If you do, you may find yourself in the darkest of places.

Despite all the warnings given to me. I pushed open the door of an organisation where the reality was much worse than the nightmare. I had experienced the exposure of poor management previously but nothing as terse. Morale was so low staff had already before my arrival perfected the theory of less is less.

Early on, I received praise and acknowledgement for my work.  Singled handed, I had done in weeks what had not been in years. The honeymoon was short.  An ineffective manager was fostered upon me and everything started quickly down hill.

In retrospect the spitefulness of my manager was no less than I should have expected. The leader of the organisation, sensing my misunderstanding of how things were done. Explained that I should have no expectations.  This was all the more difficult to swallow since the organisation works with very vulnerable young people.

This is type of management and organisation Schneider describes in his book as Catabolic. Where the leadership controls by pushing and pulling, delegates fully (and then points and blames). Gives information without justification or buy-in, self assesses, emotionally disconnects, takes advantage of staff…

It’s my fault. During this period, my health suffered and I lost my anabolic energy – the ability to encourage, to be future focused, to see opportunities etc.

The price for selling myself short was very high, but I learned that as long as I work hard, smart and stay aligned, absolutely nothing can stop my journey.

Have a fantastic week, living at your peak.

 

You Are Not Alone

Happy Friday everyone! April 27th and the last Friday of the month. Can you believe it, May is upon us.

Although I haven’t been in earshot of either of these buzz words recently, I am pretty sure you’ve experienced the felling of ‘Am I the only one syndrome’

The words buzz words I’m referring to are, community and tribe.

In my recent post, How To Start Your Day; I mentioned the importance of energy. I must confess my views are often my own. I work a lot from intuition, one of my key strengths. Imagine how pleased I was to see sitting on my friend Janette’s bookshelf Bruce D Schneider’s book Energy Leadership (Transforming Your Workplace and Your Life from the Core).

This guy has produced a whole concept and theory on the subject. I’m ferociously devouring his work and will share with you over the coming days and weeks. In the meantime the ISBN 978-0-47018636-7

This past week has been about continued alignment towards my desired destination. I’m doing what I can to limit the word goal. Embracing Schneider’s theory, there are no problems, no challenges – only opportunities. Setting goals to me seems challenging.

And then there was Justin Scott Campbell’s interview with activist and author Adrienne Maree Brown featured on Longreads. Here on the WordPress platform.

In my ignorance I had never heard the term “flocking” described by Brown “how do we stay the right distance apart and the right distance in touch with each other in order to actually move together as a unit and stay alive and make it as far as we can.” 

Isn’t that beautiful, whether we acknowledge it or not we’re all connected. Whether we know each other or not this is a community and I am finding my tribe.

Have a fantastic weekend.

The Peak Life.

 

+ 1/Plus one

Welcome to Plus 1/+1.

Recommend Wednesday! The edition of my blog, recommending blogger’s who are an inspration and encouragement.

First up, Justin Scott Campbell, 27,741,527 followers, +1

A worthwhile long read is JSC’s interview with social activist, facilitator, author and fiction writer, Adrienne Maree Brown.

Brown has written two books, Octavia’s Brood, her latest Emergent Strategy.  Even in transcript form, this interview is so well crafted, podcast’s could learn a thing or two.

Just as it should be, Justin makes Brown the heart of the interview.  This reader could sense, her wanting to make this world a better place. From her activist beginnings, her involvement with the Harm Reduction Coalition, to raise awareness of “drug and sex patterns”  After which, she became a skilled facilitator, helping to start-up other activist groups.

Brown appears to have a discerning energy, with clarion observations of America and its global influence. Including an analysis of how people treat each other generally.  The interview is intoxicating, invigorating.

I love this blog. A timely read.

We all need encouragement, to conduct with regularity our own introspective inventories.  In this blog, this interview, Brown via Campbell, is able to convey that.  As time permits, I look forwad to reading, English professor Justin Scott Campbell’s past blogs.

I’ll also so be ordering Brown’s books. Despite the gulf in year, a kindred spirit, I have me found. She gives me hope, that in my life time, the world will be a better place.

Thank you, Professor Campbell.

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How to start your day

Distractions, distractions, distractions. The noise is silent, so how do you know what should get your attention.

Intention, intention, your intention at the start of the day will set the tone of your day.  It will also likely determine the abundance level for the day.

Routine is key. Can’t understand why routine gets such a bad rap.  A routine limits chaos and acts as a bookmark should your day not go to plan.

Energy

Everyday has a beginning, middle and end. At some point at the beginning of the day you will need to be in top gear, before switching through the remaining gears. Before repeating the process, middle and end. Energy quality will dictate your outcomes, your abundance level.

How you start your day is so important

How you start your day is so important.  Typically, I begin the day the same way I ended the previous day, with a glass of water. This is to, not only replenish the body but to activate the digestive system. Then I do some reading and after that, I journal. This can take anywhere from twenty to forty minutes, depending on the level of inspiration I receive. After r&l,  plus reviewing the previous day.  I quiet my mind!

The only contact

At this point, the only electrical equipment I’ve had contact with, are my toothbrush and the fridge. Deliberately, I keep away from phone, email and social media.

Set YOUR intention

After journal entries, I practice Yoga for about forty minutes, yoga nourishes my intention process.  For me the physical, variety, and  pace of yoga, make it ideal for intention for daily intention setting.

Social Media weaning

I have significantly reduced my Facebook engagement and social media generally. By doing so, I am improving my alertness and better positioned to receive my expectations of abundance. Set your intentions, not that of social media.

Until next time, Peak Life.

I am a big believer in supplements to aid healthier living and will write about on this in the near future.